* if the shoe fits …

Posted on July 13th, 2010 by melinda in my not so normal family

My oh my what a difference 24 hours can make.  Yesterday evening at this time I was still recovering from a very bad terrible awful day … tonight, I have just returned home from a wonderful evening that consisted of a wonderful surprise.  Tonight is 2nd Tuesday and that always means Bentley night at PJ’s.  I haven’t gotten to go the past couple of months, so I was already looking forward to going tonight … (just as a side note, I have seen my Bentley family during that time, I just wasn’t there to eat on 2nd Tuesday).  Anyway, tonight, I walk in and to my most pleasant surprise, there sits my cousin Robin and her two beautiful daughters.  I was shocked!  I didn’t even know they were in town.  They live way far away in TX and I don’t get to see them very often, and when we do get to see each other, it’s usually in a big crowd of family and everyone has to take turns grabbing their attention.  Not tonight.  Everyone else was occupied visiting with eachother and I got to spend an entire hour visiting across the table with Robin. 

You know that old saying about friends that you may not see or talk to for long periods of time, but nothing ever changes?  That’s how it is with Robin.  Growing up, we were great friends as well as cousins, she was my maid of honor in my first wedding, we hung out with the same people … you get the picture.  And then we grew up.  She graduated college, unlike yours truly, moved to California and eventually to TX, where she met and married a guy from the town next to our home town.  How weird is that?  You move to TX to meet & marry someone who grew up 20 minutes from your house.  Odd.  Remind me to tell her that’s weird.  The funny thing is … we seldom ever talk.  Sometimes she drops by the blog and leaves me a sweet comment, but other than that, we don’t email often, I don’t even know her cell phone number or her address, but … when we get a chance to hang out, it’s like there is no catching up to do, life just picks up where it left off the last time we visited.  There is no funky or awkward how has life been moments, we just fall right back in to whatever conversation we ended with a year or so ago.  It’s sort of like finding an old pair of bedroom shoes you forgot you had under your bed, putting them on and remembering just how cozy they’ve always been and how well they’ve always fit.  Tonight, our conversation, after a quick catch up on all the girls, was mostly about books we’re reading, books we’ve read and books we want to read.  I had to laugh when she asked what I was reading right now and I told her … it was the very same book she is reading.  We talked about spirituality and one of our favorite shared authors and his new book that she is reading and I haven’t read.  She shared with me about her Jesus action figure that was given to them as a prank but has now become an important part of her personal walk with the Holy Spirit and how God uses it to remind her to pay attention to even the small things on a daily basis. 

As we sat there talking, surrounded by our families, it was hard for me not to feel a bit elated.  Yesterday was a really crappy day.  To be honest, other than my vacation week, the last month or so has been a challenge, but today was a reminder that when we least expect it God sends someone our way to simply remind us (or maybe I should say remind me.) not to get so frustrated by it all.  To revel in the small things of life.  To stop focusing on the negative and embrace the positive that each day brings.  How grateful I am to have  been reminded of His love today and how much more grateful I am that the reminder included some time with someone I truly love.


3 Comments on “* if the shoe fits …”

  1. Jodie

    I have 3 friends, of 25 years and we all get together 2 or 3 times a year and spend 2-3 hours talking about “everything” possible. It is definately time we treasure. I e-mailed you a quick line. Have a great week.

  2. Marjorie Markham

    I think that is awesome.

  3. robin foster

    i enjoyed our time together. what a blessing to have many
    miles between us and feel so close.

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